There are couples who know very early on what they want their wedding to look like.
And there are others.
Those who realize at some point:
What is shown everywhere doesn’t feel like us.
Too big. Too loud. Too much for others.
And this is where the idea of an elopement often begins.
What an elopement really is
An elopement is not a “small wedding”.
And not a spontaneous decision either.
It is a deliberate reduction.
Not because you want less –
but because you decide to keep only the essentials.
Yourselves. Your moment. Your promise. Everything else becomes secondary.
Many couples don’t come to me because they “want to get married differently”.
But because they feel that they would lose themselves in classic weddings.
They say things like:
“We really want to experience the day – not organize it.”
“We want to be able to look at each other without 80 people waiting.”
“We want to remember what it felt like.”
And that is precisely the essence of an elopement. Not less wedding.
But more feeling per moment.
The special quality of “only us”
When it’s just the two of you, everything changes.
The day becomes calmer. Clearer. More intense.
You have time. Time for nervousness in the morning. Time for real words.
Time for silence – without it becoming uncomfortable.
Freedom that is otherwise rarely allowed
An elopement gives you something back that is lost in many weddings: freedom.
You can get married where it feels right for you.
- In the snow, when everything goes quiet and the world is quieter.
- By the sea, with wind, salt on your skin and far away.
- In a city that is part of your history
I accompany couples to Portugal, for example – or to Lapland in winter.
And it’s precisely there that you can feel what happens when the surroundings and the moment fit together:
The wedding is not planned.
It is experienced.
Less complexity. More meaning.
An elopement takes the pressure off – but not the meaning.
On the contrary.
What is omitted:
- large guest lists
- Schedules every 15 minutes
- Expectations from outside
What remains:
- conscious decisions
- real encounter
- Memories that are not superimposed
Space is created for what is often lost:
presence.
And what about family and friends?
This question is important.
And it is justified.
An elopement does not mean that people are unimportant.
It just means that the moment of the wedding ceremony belongs to you.
Many couples find very beautiful paths afterwards:
- A relaxed celebration in a small circle
- a weekend together
- or simply a conscious sharing of images and memories
Without pressure.
Without the expectation of having to “work”.
Who an Elopement is really suitable for
For couples who:
- do not find themselves in the classic wedding picture
- Finding depth more important than size
- want to remain true to yourself
- and have the courage to do just that
Or to put it more simply:
For couples who say:
“We want to get married – not organize it.”
My personal view
I plan many different weddings.
Big, small, classic, free.
But elopements have a special clarity.
They are quiet.
And that is precisely why they are so powerful.
Because nothing distracts.
Because nothing covers up.
And because in the end only one question counts:
Did it feel right for you?
And perhaps that is precisely the point
There is no “right” or “wrong” way to get married.
But there is a fitting or not fitting.
An elopement is not for everyone.
But for the right couples, it is often exactly what they were looking for –
without being able to name it at the beginning.
If you are thinking about getting married in this way, I will be happy to accompany and advise you.
Your Simone
